Dissatisfied where you are, but don't feel you've got other options? Know you want to do something different, but don't know what?

Do you feel just, well, stuck?

Relax. You're not alone, it *is* normal, and this can be resolved.

There is going to be a huge amount going on for you. It might include some or all of:

• You feel torn - There is good and bad in the existing job, it's not *that* bad, you can stick it out, but sometime you just can't look yourself in the mirror or you feel dirty for putting up with it.
• Changing jobs seems daunting, too much to do and where do I start?
• I'm doing something I thought would be good, but now it's not - it's like the end of a relationship, you suddenly doubt yourself, your capability to do anything well, that work is just not for you, how could you ever succeed?
• I'm not good enough at anything
• I can't earn enough doing what I really want to do
• I want to go, but what if the next place is as bad or worse? Surely it's better the devil you know? What's the point, all workplaces are bad...

There is this emotional load to deal with *and * there are practical plans to enact. Ever any good at effective action when you're feeling emotional? No? Me neither - humans aren't, that's not the way we're built.

It's rare that people can achieve sufficient distance from themselves to see what they are going through clearly, and hence plan if they want to do something different. You physically cannot separate the emotional reaction from the raw data, as the two are involved in perception in your brain. Take a different look by trying the job change process, and after that if you feel lost, consider a coach. This is the role of a coach - someone else to help you achieve this overview - the coach doesn't do it for you - the coach enables you to do this for yourself.

The key focus is then to surface the emotions to enable you to deal with them, acknowledge them and where you wish to, move differently. What happens as a result of this is that you become more able to effectively act. By working with someone else, you amplify your effectiveness and your productivity to get more results faster.

Something else going on for most people is that we hold ourselves back. The difficult question to answer is: why? By discussing this and helping you to understand yourself better, you can release some of these breaks and also use this new knowledge to find a new job that suits your true personality better.

Get this. Take it in. You are OK, you probably deserve better and now let's get going on the work needed to fix this. Let's get planning.

The path to the new job:

• Get to what doesn't work about where you are, and get to what does. Complete on this.
• Surface the causes of your emotions about what does and does not work, hence understand your needs better and begin to establish your requirements for a new role.
• Establish what you offer
• Articulate what you are seeking
• Develop compelling communications on what you offer and seek
• Market yourself
• Perform at interview
• Negotiate well
• Start successfully, enshrining new habits and the new you

The full path for you? A fortnight to a year - it depends on you - that's why I offer coaching and not just a list - it's different for each individual. Try the process - it can help independent of any coaching, and if you're interested in the coaching look at Arrod Coaching

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